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You know that eroticism, sex and pornography have been on the internet since the Internet was created. According to statistics, up to 30% of all Internet traffic is sex and erotic. At this time, erotic content is a huge part of the entire Internet traffic. Unfortunately, part of this traffic is made up of underage users who access these portals despite forbidden entry. It is quite difficult to prevent minors from entering erotic (and any other) sites. We are well aware of this fact and that is why we have prepared this text for parents. Eroticism and pornographic content usually have a negative impact on children - giving them a very distorted view of sexuality, which can result in relatively serious problems in the future. Addiction to pornography is increasingly a problem for minors, and it is up to us, as adults, to grow up in a healthy individual who will not have any impact on available adult entertainment.

Your child can access erotic content accidentally or thanks to classmates and friends. It is clear to every parent that it is not in your power to prevent this. Therefore, we recommend that you minimize the risks associated with this behavior and talk to your child in time. First of all, you have to realize that you, as parents, have the most important role to play in this matter - do not rely on school, educators, and at this time not at all that your child has no way of getting in contact with erotic content.

How do children come across online pornography?
1) It can be an active search out of curiosity, or out of hearing from friends.
2) In the history of a browser that was used by an adult.
3) By chance - an innocent-looking click through to various popup windows with advertising is sufficient.
4) Spam messages in email containing links to eroticism.
5) From an adult - in this case, contact the helpline immediately.

So how can you protect your children and deal with them?
Here are a few points to follow. Despite the serious topic, we will try to present the situation in a lighter form. If you have any questions, please contact the seux clinics directly - they are in training situations and will be happy to help you with anything related.

The situations and advice described below were drawn from various reputable sources (mostly from professional websites). The texts are intended to reflect on how to prevent your child's access to adult pornography and content - this is not a 100% tutorial.

1) Rules
We recommend that you start by setting up certain rules. Talk to your child in time, don't postpone it until later. At this time, even when relatively young children have their mobile phones with the Internet, there is nothing to wait for. Given your child's age, explain what is unacceptable and dangerous. Begin by sharing any photos or videos with erotic overtones is inappropriate and especially dangerous.

2) Be interested
Talk regularly about what your child is doing and searching in the online world. Do not try to control the child downstream - this may result in distrust in you. Instead of checking your browsing history after leaving your computer, talk openly and create in your childmaximum trust - your child should treat you as an experienced parent who knows about the various dangers and pitfalls of the online world.

3) Technology
Use available parental control applications. There are many applications on all available platforms. They are available at low fees, saving you a lot of time and worry. These apps have a number of features to help you minimize issues related to the availability of erotic content. Most of these applications also have the option of setting time locks, when the Internet connection is limited at a certain time, or turned off completely at your time of day or night. Monitoring of open applications and websites is a matter of course. If you decide to use such software, explain the reasons to the child - positively and by no means tell the child that the reason for your action is that you do not trust the child. This will almost certainly ensure that your child will circumvent your decision and keep his or her online activities as much as possible, creating mutual mistrust and bringing nothing positive to the child and not at all.

4) Household equipment
It is not ideal when a child uses your work or home computer to go to adult sites. Certainly you do not watch the "clean" history of your browser and if you share your computer with other, underage family members, so it is almost certain that your child gets to the erotic site not thanks to Pepík from the class, but thanks to you. You do not want to be responsible for your child boasting at school, that your computer or mobile is not just for work. In this way, you give your child a pattern that you just don't change. Pornography, especially in the hands of a minor, can also lead to addiction with all the trimmings. Therefore, we recommend that all parents purchase their own computer and mobile phone and password protect their equipment and do not allow access. You, as a parent, will have a little more restful sleep and will not wake up at night with the horror of forgetting to "lubricate" the history of your evening internet browsing.

5) Discussion
Do not rush to discuss sexuality and eroticism. According to experts, the optimal age for discussion is around 9 years. At this age, you have the opportunity to influence and direct the child so that pornography does not reach with the help of friends or other accident. It is important to have a discussion on this before it happens and when it may be too late - it can be quite stressful for both you and your child to discuss this fact “afterwards”. Of course, every child is different, differently developed and growing up in a different environment, and there is no universal clue when to discuss this topic.

6) Is your child is already in contact with pornography or other erotic content?
Stay calm. Never punish your child. It is difficult to condemn a young person in such a situation and not at all to punish him. If this situation upsets you so much that an inadequate response will occur, then you probably have the door closed for further discussion in the future. Your child will not have confidence in youwill come to you with problems (sometimes of a more serious nature), which will have on some intimate or relationship level. He will simply be afraid of you, will not believe you, because he will remember the scene that you unnecessarily and unintentionally rolled out as a parent.

In this situation, we recommend that you sit down calmly with your child and try to get at least some basic information to help you interact with the child and have further discussion. Be aware that this can prevent many serious problems, especially if your child has accessed erotic content by chance . By this we mean an adult, bringing the problem to a different level and requiring your thoughtful and effective communication. So start by asking how your child got to that page, when and where, what device and what they saw on it. Listen, and however serious the situation is, keep your head calm. If you have the impression that you have learned something serious or alarming, take some time to think before you act. If you think the situation is so serious that you cannot respond or deal with the situation in a reasonable way, you should contact experts. In the most serious situation, do not rely on online discussions and call directly specialists who deal with this issue. If you find any pathological phenomena (such as a sexual predator) , then immediately contact the authorities - to avoid many other possible problems.

In less severe situations, ensure that the child does not feel embarrassed, criticize, blame or surely swear. Likewise, it is inappropriate for you to take a child's mobile phone or forbid access to a computer. Of course, the child will take it as punishment, which was your goal, but you will do more harm than good.

Also be prepared for your child to lie or make excuses. In such a situation, it is difficult to estimate how your child will react and rather than curse through a betrayed lie, so tell your child that they do not have to lie and have nothing to fear. Even in this situation, try to do everything so that your child does not feel threatened, embarrassed and worried or in any way punishment.

What to conclude?
We will be very pleased if you help us to limit access of children to erotic portals, as well as to SEXOMAT. You, as a parent, are a much more effective "tool" than any software to prevent your child from accessing a site containing sexual content.

We thank you for reading this important text to the end and believe in its positive contribution - minimizing the risks associated with the online world of today's children and youth.

In case of any questions do not hesitate to contact us via the contact form or send us an email to info@sexomat.cz .